This. Changed. EVERYTHING.
A personal note from Mary
Do you sometimes find the pressure of self care to be a bit...annoying?
Like, unless you're bathing in milk and flower petals and working out on a Pilates reformer everyday, you're kind of doing it wrong?
If so, you're not alone.
I find practicing self care because I'm supposed to or because it's good for me, aren't compelling enough reasons to act.
But if it becomes about life or death, then you have my attention.
I experience PMDD, also known as Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. For every person this manifests differently. For me, it shows up as debilitating depression and and anxiety.
For 7-10 days a month, it's like the lights go out. Everything feels wrong. I struggle to work. I find being in relationship almost impossible. I can't sleep at night, and as a consequence, can barely stay awake during the day.
It was more manageable in my 20's but as I've gotten older it's gotten worse and worse. Having tried multiple medications, always ending up back at square one, I felt utterly hopeless and defeated about the whole situation.
This all started to shift when I stopped viewing self care as a glamorous fantasy, and instead as a way of saving my sanity and my life.
I started setting the simplest of goals like drinking water and walking for 15-minutes a day.
I made being in my body the most important thing in my life.
I got an accountability partner because I knew when the PMDD set in, I'd have to fight really hard against the force that told me it wasn't worth it and that I should just stay in bed.
I'm grateful to report that as a result, my symptoms have decreased by about 70%.
Your senses are a pathway to the present moment.
When I first had the vision for the School of Sensual Living, it looked like lounging in a french chateau, wearing a satin robe with jasmine floating on the air.
And while I do intend to continue enriching like my life and yours with experiences like that, I'm much more interested in self care that helps you be here right now, rather than escape through a fantasy.
Imagine what it would be like...
To slow down and speak from the heart.
To never feel guilty for prioritizing feeling good in your body.
To feel confident in your sensuality.
To immerse your life in beauty.
To experience abundance not as how much you can get, but how deeply you can savor what you have.
I can't wait to toast you and your peace of mind with a nice, tall glass of...water. :)